Have an issue with your account? Got questions about how DateID works? You've come to the right place.

Both Self Serve and Priority Support with a human are available.

Self-serve Support

DateID is designed to be self-serve. 99% of the time you will be able to resolve your issue or find an answer to your question immediately, on your own.

Use our Virtual Assistant (chat is in the lower right of your screen) and the FAQs on this page. Here are just a few popular topics. 

Priority Support

If you're a paying customer (Gold Member) you are eligible for Priority Support with a real human via chat, phone or email. For chat, type in "paying customer" and follow the prompts. If you prefer the phone, you can reach us at +1-415-295-2706. Or email support@dateid.com.  

Our normal business hours are 9 AM to 6 PM PST, Monday through Friday.

Here are the questions we're most frequently asked.

Declined credit cards + payment alternatives

Why is my credit card being declined?

Got money in your account but can’t pay? Yeah, it’s frustrating.

Online payment processing is extremely complex and there are lots of things that can cause “false declines”.

Credit card networks are more likely to decline a card if it’s been declined in the past. They look for patterns, including combinations of previously used email addresses and/or IP address, so keep that in mind. They don't like email addresses that look fake (e.g. mfark456345@gmail.com). The also don’t like VPNs (Virtual Private Networks).

Here are some ways to work around it, so that you can get your ID instantly:

  1. Call the number on the back of your credit or debit card and ask them to approve the transaction. Keep them on the phone while you try again.
  2. Try using a different email address when submitting your payment. Choose an established email address that's worked in the past. It does not need to be the same email address that you signed up with.
  3. Use an IP addresses that has worked for payment in the past. New IP addresses can cause problems. Don't use a VPN.
  4. Pay with a gift card such as this one: www.giftcards.com/visa-egift-gift-card
  5. Try again in a few hours or a few days. Sometimes glitches like this resolve on their own.
    How do I pay with PayPal?

    PayPal is the most reliable way to pay online. You'll see a yellow "Pay with PayPal" button on the signup page.

    The same card that is being declined will usually work once you connect it to PayPal.

    Here's the direct signup link: https://www.paypal.com/signup/

    Can I pay with a gift card?

    Yes. If it has 16 digits, you can use it. This one usually works: www.giftcards.com/visa-egift-gift-card


      How to Get an ID

      What are the steps to get an ID?
      1. Create an account
      2. Become a Gold Member
      3. Complete ID Verification

      If you're already a Gold Member, here's how to complete ID Verification. Be prepared to upload your drivers license, passport or other government ID card, and get a facial scan.

      How long does it take to get an ID?

        ID's are issued immediately after you become a Gold Member and complete ID Verification. Be prepared to upload your drivers license, passport or other government ID card, and get a facial scan.

        What dating sites is DateID compatible with?

        DateID is agnostic to dating sites, and you can use it everywhere. We are universally compatible with all sites and apps.

        DateID works internationally, including the US, UK, Canada and Australia. We also have customers across Europe and the Philippines.

        We are the leader in Dating Verification, and our ID is valid on all dating sites and apps.

        There are thousands of dating and hookup sites, with new ones coming online daily, so it's impossible to maintain a list.

        Scams, catfishing and general deception are a problem on all dating apps. We exist to help online dating users verify each other in order to to stay safe and avoid these problems. 

        How do I access and share my ID?

        DateID is designed for the digital world and we make it extremly easy to share.

        This article has everyting you need to know about sharing: https://www.about.dateid.com/how-to-share

        The short answer is that most people simply share the link to their profile and/or their DateID username.

        You can copy the link and then send it via text, email or right on a dating app.

        Share dateid profile
        How do I find my username and profile URL?

        By default, your username will be a combination of your first name and last name. If we already have other members with your name, a number will automatically be appended to the end of your username.

        You can edit your username in your profile settings. Just like with social media, you can make it anything you want.

        Your profile URL will match your username. For example, if your username is johnsmith, your profile URL will be dateid.com/johnsmith.

        Do I have to connect my social media for DateID work?

        No. You can create an account with your email address and connecting social media accounts is 100% optional.

        The number of social media accounts you connect does not impact your verification level.

        But, it will help people get to know you. So, if you use social media we recommend connecting as many accounts as possible.

        How do I background check someone on DateID?

        Always background check your date on DateID before actually meeting in person (rest assured that your searches are completely private and no one will know you searched for them).

        If your prospective date is already a DateID member, just ask for their username.

 If not, search for them by name, social media handle, email address or phone number. If the name is common, you may need to use Advanced Search to narrow down the results by location and/or age range.

        DateID shows you a preview of what it can find. Once you click through, DateID does an extensive web search.

        In this example we'll search for celebrity Jay Shetty. Three results come up, and I want the first one.

        Jay Shetty search results

        Once I click through, DateID does an extensive web search.


        The final results depend on the person's digital footprint and may include age, location, workplace, education and more. We also give you every major social media site. I recommend visiting every social profile as part of your screening process.

        We also run deep, localized searches on Google that may turn up additional information and photos you cannot find on your own.

        And finally, just to be safe, we check the sex offender registry. Because sex offenders are known to target dating app users.

        Once the search is complete we show you what we found, as blue icons. When icons are gray, it means we searched but didn't find anything.

        DateID background check results modal

        Here's how the final screening profile looks.

        Jay Shetty background check profile


        Location and Verification Troubleshooting

        Why can't I verify my location?

        If you can’t verify your location, most likely your server or IP address is outside of the geofence we’ve set (out of our hands). This one can be tough to fix, but we have put together a detailed help article on it.

        ***Note that you don’t have to verify your location to level up Gold and get your ID.***

        If you’re a Gold member, and you have completed ID Verification, we will manually verify your location and add the blue check mark to your profile. Just type “paying customer” into the chat and follow the prompts.

        Why can't I verify my drivers license or passport?

        Please read our detailed help article on how to troubleshoot this.

        How can I verify my photos?

        When you upload a photo that was taken and stored on your phone, we will add the date it was taken and mark it as verified, provided that the photo has IPTC metadata attached. A logo watermark is added to photos that have been verified, and users can download them for use on dating apps.

        Important: If it’s not saved to your phone before uploading, no date will be available for us to add, and it can't be verified. You also have to upload it via Firefox or Chrome. Safari strips the date away.

        verified dating app photoA verified photo as seen on a phone.

        Users who have verified their photos also receive a badge on their profile, alongside other DateID verifications they’ve completed, including location, age and identity.

        verified DateID profileAge, location, identity and photo verifications as seen on a phone.

        How do I upload, download, edit or delete photos?

        To manage photos, go to your Profile Settings https://www.dateid.com/profile/edit.

        Then, click on your profile photo to open your photo albums. Here's the direct link.

        Photos are organized by social media source. You may have to filter to find the one you want.

        To delete, select the one you want to delete, and click on the trashcan icon in the lower right.

        You can also upload photos directly to the album from your phone or computer. When looking at the thumbnail display, click the blue"upload photo" button at the bottom of the screen.

        To save a photo as your profile photo, once you've selected the photo you want, hit “save”.

        How do I change my age?

        To change your age, go to your Account Settings by clicking on the "gear" icon.

        Then scroll all the way down until you see the section that says "Update your age". Click on the button and proceed.

        Here's how it looks:



        Account errors and troubleshooting

        Can't log in/forgot password

        If you originally signed up with Facebook, and you're logging in with email for the first time, you'll need to create a password. To do this, you'll use the password reset function.

        How to reset your password

        If you've lost access to your password, you can do a password reset from the homepage.

        1. Click "log in" at the top of the screen or use this link
        2. Click the button to log in with email
        3. Click the password reset link at the bottom of the next screen


        4. Enter your email address to get a password reset link

        5. Create a new password. ***IMPORTANT: It must be all lower case letters. No capitals, not special characters.*** We're working on fixing this.

        If you don't receive the password reset email, check your spam folder.

        Watch this video to see the password reset process.

        How can I change my name?

        For security reasons, we don't allow users to change their names. If we did, we'd have too many fraudulent accounts. However, if you're a Gold Member, and you've completed ID verification, we will update your name to be consistent with your driver's license or passport.

        Otherwise, you can delete your account and start over with the correct name.

        Why is there someone else with my name and info?

        DateID has hundreds of millions of records, internationally. Many of them are not actual DateID members who signed up, like you. Therefore, if you have a common name, there will potentially be dozens of profiles with your name.

        If you are already signed up, and you've found non-member profile that appears to be you, you can "claim" the profile and it will merge with your account. Here's how:

        1. View the full profile, like you're screening someone (your first 3 are free so you should not have to pay).
        2. Scroll to the bottom of the page.
        3. Click the button that says "claim this profile". Here's how it looks.

        claim DateID profile button

        Note: Due to the way databases function, this will only work if your Facebook account ID is the same as the Facebook account ID attached to the non-member profile. Otherwise, anyone could claim anyone's profile. If the two match, your member profile will be merged with the non-member profile.

        If you created an account with your email address, you'll need to create a new DateID account with Facebook. Or if you're a paying customer, we will manually merge the profile for you. Just type "paying customer" into the chat, and follow the prompts.


        Payment, Plans & Guarantee

        How much does DateID cost?

        DateID offers a variety of free features to Bronze and Silver members, with no credit card required. Purchase a Gold Membership for a one-time fee of $69.95 to unlock ID Verification and Sex Offender Clearance. You’ll also gain access to Priority Tech Support and three Instant Background Checks to help you avoid scams (and bad dates!)

        Learn about our free and paid membership plans.

        Will there be recurring charges?

        Gold Memberships, which are required for ID Verification, are a one-time fee of just $69.95 US. Your ID is good for a lifetime. There will never, ever be any recurring charges, add-ons or other billing shenanigans.

        Do I need to put down a credit card?

        It's free to join with no credit card required. If you want to purchase a Gold membership to get your ID, you have the option to pay with a cash card or gift card. We recommend this VISA gift card: www.giftcards.com/visa-egift-gift-card. 

        How does the money-back guarantee work?

        DateID is the industry leader in Dating Verification and we proudly stand behind our product. When it comes to customer satisfaction, our philosophy is simple: if you’re not happy, we’re not happy.

        That’s why we offer a no-questions-asked money-back guarantee. If DateID doesn’t help you get more good dates and avoid scams (and bad dates!), we want to return your money.


        Privacy Controls

        How can I protect my privacy on DateID?

        While we encourage openness and transparency in online dating, it's not our role to determine how public or private anyone on our platform wants to be. That's why we offer robust privacy controls.

        Aside from your age, name and location, you can choose to make any details on your profile visible or invisible.

        You can also make your entire profile 100% invisible in your Account Settings.

        If you do that, you have full control over who can and can't find you on DateID. Only people who you share your unique profile URL with will be able to find you. If you choose to go invisible, be aware that anyone you share your username, email or phone number with will not be able to find you by running a search.

        Will someone know if I searched for them on DateID?

        No, all searches are 100% anonymous. 


        Refunds & deletion

        How do I request a refund?

        Open up the chat bot in the lower right, and type "refund". Then follow the prompts.

        How can I delete my account?

        Go to your account settings and scroll down, you will see a place where you can delete. Once you're deleted you will be permanently removed from our database. All of your data will be scrubbed. We are sorry to see you go!